From a curious 25yr old's perspective
1) What attracted me to Mistress Violet Mays from a long list of fetish providers in Toronto?
Since childhood I have subconsciously been attracted to dominant female personalities, but I only became conscious of it once I discovered the terms "Femdom" and"Dominatrix" through exploring online kink but I was curious about what it would be like to have a first-hand BDSM dungeon experience. I have so many questions in my mind about what is it that draws me to Femdom… What is the underlying sexual psychology? What is it that makes it so widespread yet not talked about in social conversation? Would it not be fun to know a professional who practices this? And so on.
To get answers to all of these questions I was looking for a professional Dominatrix near me who would help me explore my sexuality in a non-judgemental and slightly deeper way. A Google search brought me to a BDSM directory and there I found a list of impressive fetish providers near me with tons of experience. There was something uncannily professional, caring, elegant, sophisticated, calm, and rich with such carefully crafted selection of words and images on one of the websites that I came across. I was impressed. I started following Mistress Violet Mays on twitter and every once in a while I would look at her website and read the testimonials that she would post. One year later - once I had little more experience with more conventional love making - I thought I was missing out on some life experiences for myself and so I made one of the best decisions of my life and booked a 2hr dungeon session with Mistress Violet Mays.
2) How I expected the booking process to be and how it was
The booking process was professional, polite, well-instructed, and exactly as explained on the website. One day after submitting the detailed mandatory form on her website, Mistress Mays reached out to me with a short welcoming email stating exactly when she would get back to me. Since I received the email sometime between 8:30 and 9:30am, she made an impression of an early morning person which I did not expect and was impressed by. On the second day after submission of the form she asked me to provide screening details (I sent her a piece of ID) and to provide multiple dates that would work with my schedule in order to arrange the session. The day after, around 8:30am in the morning, she sent me a date and a time that worked with both of our schedules and requested that I confirm the booking with a $50 deposit using e-transfer. As soon as I made the transfer, I received a "booking confirmed" email. The most impressive and professional part was that she only accepted the transfer 30 minutes prior to our session which made me respect her character and trust her even more. Now I had a week to wait before my coveted experience would come to life. 😉
3) The wait time before the session date
After the session was booked, I was happy and experienced a completely different level of excitement. Every other hour or two at work I would look to see if anyone was around and if not, I would read through our email conversations which would put a mysterious smile on my face and make me wanna dance out of excitement! I exuded enthusiasm and happy smiles. In the middle of doing something, I would imagine the experience I was soon to have, I would imagine how she would look, how she would greet me, what outfit she would don, how would I greet her... I also did some research and bought my very first anal douche for myself. Occasionally I would keep checking my phone to see if I had received an email from her about something or other, but that only happened on the morning of the day of our session. That email contained the address, the location, what to do once you enter through the first door, instructions on where to park, what the intersection is, what train and bus stations are near by, and a note saying not to wait by the door and to be on time.
Finally the time arrived and 45 minutes prior to my session, I brushed my teeth, gargled, put some perfume on, started chewing bubble gum, groomed my hair, made sure I had the rest of the tribute to provide upon arrival. And there I was nervous, happy, excited, listening to music on the 401East heading to Toronto (it was a good 30 min drive).👌
4) How was the session experience?
I gingerly stepped down a small flight of stairs, knocked at the door exactly 1 min before our session and 20-25 seconds after that I heard the sound of heels tapping on the floor. My heartbeat was increasing and I was trying to hide my excitement. The door opened and I was met by a sumptuous smile, black leather outfit, pointy heels, and a hello. It begins...... Mistress sweetly requested me to take my shoes off, welcomed me to the dungeon, and took me to the kitchen. Question marks in my imagination started to get filled. Mistress Mays looked gorgeous, with an amazing physique, very organized with a sense of calmness that would make anyone calm. After the greetings, the session that she had planned was briefly discussed and everything that she had a question about was resolved, the safe word was never needed but was still discussed, and then I was asked to take a quick shower and perform a quick anal douche. Once done I was asked to present myself naked. I am a beginner so the first thing we tried in our session was heel worship. I was instructed to look down at the floor while worshipping her heels, and only when I started doing a good job was I allowed to look at her. She was very instructive on what to do from toe to the heel. After that we transitioned to fancy nipple clamps and ball parachuting with some weights on. Ouch! Still gazing down, we moved to the bench where my hands and feet were completely tied down. My shaft was hard which she teased while I was being flogged. I didn’t know what would happen since I could only see the wall and now I understood that this is where the trust comes in! The situations she created didn’t leave me any choice but to give myself to her and just experience the sensations.
I realized that when blood suddenly moves to your nipples when the nipple clamps are removed, it hurts like someone has pinched you with pointy nails, but it was all worth it for the warm feeling of Mistress' tongue on my nipples. She was very conscious of what was happening in the session and was always making sure that I was okay. The fully-equipped dungeon had a positive vibe to it and had multiple rooms.
Following some light teasing, spitting, and face slapping I was freed from the bondage. But merely moments after that I was restricted once again on a spanking bench where I was pegged and pounded in all sorts of positions (I did not know that pegging and pounding were different until this point in my life) but I was not permitted to see as I had a leather hood over my face. It felt a little vulnerable but it was something I really wanted to try and in the moment, the way it was created, it felt very lively. After the bang bang boom with the cute purple dildo, we did a little bit of caning as I had requested it (after only two trial strokes it hurt!). Afterwards, I was lightly pulled by my hair and made to crawl along a corridor to a new room. Now this was really a play room! It had all sorts of fancy mechanical and electrical gadgets that she used on me. All I will say is do not request too many things or it will become unattainable, Mistress is very co-operative that way!
After a long tease and denial that I did not want to end, the session ended and there was big smile on her face. Mistress Mays allowed me some time for my blood to circulate and gave me a glass of water, then discussed improvements that I could work on which would help build a better dynamic. I was briefly asked what I liked, disliked, or anything that she should make sure for next time. Mistress gave me a long warm hug, said I had been amazing, and pointed me to the shower.
5) How I felt after the session?
Simply put, my BDSM experience was awesome. From what I experienced I feel that BDSM, if done right has limitless possibilities, especially if your sensei is very creative and nurturing. It really could be a different sexually stimulating experience every time. In my experience people who are not trying it are missing out and should definitely give it a try. It made me feel more confident and mature because the BDSM experience helped me know myself better. It was so powerful that it was a life moment that will stay with me forever. Every time I think about it, it puts a smile on my face. I had a lot of my firsts in my first dungeon session such as being immobile, tied to a spanking bench, spanking, nipple torture, parachuting, pegging, use of electrical devices, and more. It was something that added value to my life in a very unique and distinctive way. It was something I will always be grateful for and I look forward to more sessions. Thank you Mistress Violet!